As I shared here about my Dad, there is a special ceremony and marking 40 days after the death of a loved one here. It shows time has passed, you are hopefully healing and brings to mind that person once again. It is 40 days today since my gran, Ula Zaremba, passed away - see here for the original post on her passing.
Everyone keeps asking me how I am doing (and how Mom is doing): and on the whole I am doing ok. Every now and again something hits me and reminds me of the loss, but I think that will be ongoing for a while. My mom is visiting my sister right now and doing ok, and arrives in two weeks to visit me, which I am REALLY looking forward to!
Marking of the 40 days since my gran passed away also helps me put things in perspective. She (and my Dad) are gone but not forgotten. Their memory will live on in those of us left behind. Their legacy and lives will live on in us as we remember them... And we slowly, but surely, begin to heal.